To the Nigerian Woman,

In spite of what our society and culture emphasizes, let’s remember, we are not solely defined by marital status. Marriage is a great bond and commitment made for lifelong companionship, not the ultimate conquest.

For the mothers, regardless of what you hear, believe that having the girl first or only girls is not a waste. They are as worthy and capable as the boy and should be brought up to aspire to their highest ambition.

Nigerian woman, appreciate and recognize your beauty as well as the beauty of others. Light skin is beautiful. Dark skin is beautiful. That chocolate brown skin is beautiful. The skinny, the large, the tall, the short, all have a unique beauty and are deserving of admiration.

Nigerian woman, let’s not judge and isolate ourselves from the other woman that is not in our tribe. That does not speak our language. That does not have the same religion that we do. Let’s listen to each other so we stop misunderstanding each other. Let’s freely compliment each other and not get caught up with comparisons, envy, and gossip. Let’s stand up more for each other rather than blaming ourselves. Let’s advocate more for each other against the wrongs and injustice we see happening around us.

Nigerian women, let’s not wait around for a solution but continue to step forward to creating the change we want to see. Let’s recognize that our voices are glorious. Let’s known that in each of us is this strength and wisdom gifted to us by the Almighty and we, therefore, are capable of making an incredible impact on ourselves and nation.

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